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Monday, October 15, 2012
A marriage tragedy
If your marriage is in crisis and you or your spouse are thinking that a divorce is your only option, you need to realize that it doesn’t always have to be. To stop marriage divorce it is very important that you understand that what seems impossible, hopeless, and irreconcilable today may not seem that way tomorrow. But in order to gain some perspective and begin working towards a different solution, there are several things you can do.
One of the first things you can do is to write down all the positive things about your marriage. This may be particularly difficult if you are really angry, hurt, upset, or bitter towards your spouse. But if you can take a little time and temporarily set those emotions aside, you may be surprised at how many good things you can find that will make you want to stop marriage divorce.
It is often said that what we focus on expands. Chances are, you’ve spent so much time focusing on the negative aspects of your marriage for so long, that you have totally lost sight of all the good things. Not to mention, if you have already filed for a divorce, it is human nature to search for everything we can to justify the decision that was made. Recognize that tendency and determine to come up with a long list of all the things you love and appreciate about your spouse as well as your life together. They are there. If they weren’t, you would have never gotten married in the first place.
After you have made that list, make a second list where you write down all the negative elements that accompany a divorce. In addition to the financial toll it will likely take, it will also affect your children, be very stressful for you, and result in many other losses as well. As both of these lists grow, you may very well start thinking that to stop marriage divorce is a much better plan than going through with it.
Now that you have made those two lists, make a third list. This time include all the ways in which you have been contributing to or creating problems in your marriage. Sometimes people who are considering divorce tend to focus on all their spouse’s shortcomings while refusing to consider their own. Sadly, if you never bother to consider your own relationship flaws, you are going to take them with you right into the next relationship. It is better to stop marriage divorce now than end up in the same situation with someone new a few years from now.
Don’t be surprised if you wake up one day and feel like you are recreating your previous relationship. Without taking inventory and making some hard changes, you will tend to keep attracting the same type of partner and have the same types of conflicts. Wouldn’t it make more sense to work on yourself now, in this relationship, if at all possible? Once you make this list, determine what some of the steps are that you can take to break the problematic patterns that come from you. Making positive changes is a great way to stop marriage divorce but it shows your spouse that you are aware of your shortcomings and are willing to work on them.
Last of all, encourage your partner (gently, don’t pressure!) to make similar lists of his or her own. Doing an exercise like this and discussing what you discovered can be a small step towards getting back on track. If you truly want to stop marriage divorce, start putting some thought into these lists and then go from there. You may be surprised at what you find in the process!
But when those steps dont work, you just need a powerfull divorce!
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
A Love Story
Wanna read a Really SWEET Love Story?
There was once a girl, Deidre & her boyfriend Al.
There was once a girl, Deidre & her boyfriend Al.
Zzzzziiiiiip...CRASH!...and
then the shattering sound of glass as Deidre hurls Al's Playstation 3 from the
2nd story apartment window…followed by a shrill and sobbing "GET OUT!...GET OUT!...GET OooooUT!"
See, IT WAS THE LAST STRAW! Even though Al loved
Deidre with all his heart…he had lied so often… had ignored Deidre so much that
she just reached her boiling point that hot, muggy summer afternoon.
And Al did get
out. Deidre was serious. She had had enough of Al's ways. See, Al was a good
guy…a great guy even…he cared deeply and loved Deidre…and Deidre knew it too…but
that wasn't her problem. She was sick of
feeling unappreciated…and Al just didn't
know what would make her happy anymore. He didn't know how to wipe the slate
clean…or start over...
And this WAS the
end of Deidre and Al…forever…As it is the end of so many relationships…
What if it didn't
have to be?
What if you could
recapture your ex lovers mind, heart and soul?...Wipe the slate clean? Turn back
time? Even if you feel right now that your situation is too far gone…too screwed
up …or just plain too darn complicated?
I am going to show
you right in this letter the first thing Al SHOULD have done...first may
I say?...
I know if you are
here right now you are probably in a great deal of heart ache and pain. I
understand…and I have been there too…and I am not going to belabor on and on
about the pain you feel…because I know that you know it all too well…
You already know
how hard it is to just even wake up and roll out of bed in the morning. You
leave your radio off on your way to work because every song is a painful
reminder of him. You can't even bear to eat at the same restaurants you took her
to. And if that isn't bad enough, you have to cope with the loss of friends and
family that are on "their side".
Has this type of things happen to you?
I can actually hear you agree somewhere in your heart.These types of things happen to me too.
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